My husband returned from Afghanistan on June 9th and never came home to me, didn't want me at the airport to meet him, won't respond to text messages or phone calls, just says he wants a divorce. While communication has not improved, and I haven't seen him since early August, he hasn't yet filed for divorce. Last I spoke with him he said he was trying to figure things out.
I am beyond dumb-founded, still, at the fact that he refuses to sit down and talk to me about what in the world happened to him. We were extremely happy together in our married life before he left, but this deployment changed him drastically as I feared it would. He was on an air base, in a support role, so while it was not what I would consider "safe", he was never out on patrols, his entire unit came home safely, and he never fired his weapon. Again, not saying that life was easy for him over there, but this treatment is ridiculous. He is not supporting me, has basically just started a whole new life for himself as though I never existed. It has been beyond painful, but I have left him alone to live his life and am just trying to scrape by on my own.
Can anyone that's been there give me some kind of insight as to what might be going on? More than anything I am trying to understand, but it is devastating that someone who used to love me so much could be as cruel as this man is being to me. I want badly to understand, but he won't talk to me so I am just completely in the dark...